Discovering that your partner is struggling with sex or pornography addiction can feel like the ground has been pulled out from under you. You may feel shocked, betrayed, confused, angry, and deeply hurt. Many partners describe the experience as a kind of emotional trauma — the foundation of trust in the relationship has been shaken or shattered, and the pain can feel overwhelming.
You may find yourself questioning everything: your past, your relationship, your own sense of reality. It's common to feel isolated and unsure of who to talk to, especially when the issue involves something as personal and stigmatized as sexual behavior.
You are not alone, and you are not to blame.
Support for partners is crucial. Healing begins when you have a space to process your emotions, tell your story, and understand what has happened — without judgment. Therapy can help you regain a sense of stability, begin to rebuild trust (in yourself and others), and decide what you need to feel safe and whole again. Whether you choose to remain in the relationship or not, you deserve care, clarity, and support as you move forward.